Full moons. Midwives know. They bring in the new ones. ER providers know they bring in busy nights with crazy stories. It makes sense to me. I may not be able to articulate the dynamics of it. But I get it. Cultures older and wiser than ours have known the impact of the moon on our cycles, our growing seasons, our times of change.
I have been thinking about change. How does it work? What are the star aligning components that lead us into transformation?
Some are forced upon us through life changes.
Some we choose.
Some change from pain: getting away from it. Like pulling our hand away from a hot stove.
Some are woven into our days through Mystery.
Its been a tender day for me. Recovering from a short lived bout of Covid, I feel my guard down. A bit more vulnerable. Taking it all in. Busy with revived bursts of cleaning energy. Retreating to reflection. Renewed by the night sights and sounds.
The air outside tonight has a touch of cool, (tho still warm enough to be without an extra layer.). The moon glows- not completely visible. There is a layer of haze from the fires out West. The night sounds bring reminders of change. New starts. The crickets. The owls. Letting go of summer and moving into Fall (my favorite). Change ahead.
I spent some time getting to know a new coaching client this week. I so know that bravery and courage it takes to push the button and reach out.
I so know the RELIEF when that moment is honored and held gently. Without pressure. Without expectation. With kindness,. With a gentle acceptance, and willingness to explore with curiosity.. Not judgement. Not blame/shame. Not restricting labels.
She wasn't ready to start coaching yet. We will stay in touch because I know its like a lifeline to not feel alone when exploring the tricky relationship between stress and alcohol. When coaching fits, it seems to fall into place, stars aligned.
Finding the right coach is so much like finding the right midwife. Everyone has different styles and personalities. I don't present myself as being all things to all people. This work is SO intimate and vulnerable that it is up to each client to find the place where they feel SAFE. I ENCOURAGE clients to shop around, talk to as many coaches as they need to. There needs to be that sense of comfort and trust. Like with birth.
I surrender to not knowing all the Mysteries of transformation. There are mile markers of change of course. It is lovely to be witness to them. And I know they unfold in their own time.
It is unique to each woman.
An environment of safety, trust, kindness, gentleness and practical tools are the foundation.
And what I now know. Deeply know. Is that we are all finding the midwives within ourselves to nurture change.
Reach out if any of this makes sense to you and you think coaching can ease the way to transformation. It is a partnership with a lot of messy parts and a lot of sick humor thrown in. Birth is messy right?
with such love,
Martha
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